Are you one of the 20%

After a distressing or traumatic event most people recover naturally and do not need additional assistance.  Their scary memories about the event fade and their feelings change.  When I say most people, I am saying 80%.  Which means about 2 of 10 people require additional support to feel “normal” again after a distressing or traumatic event. The first 3 days after a distressing or traumatic event, you are expected to feel off balance, have trouble sleeping, and changes in mood.  However, if a lot of time has gone by, say more than 30 days and you still feel the same intensity of feelings, seek additional help and support.  See video for more explanation.   To connect with a therapist to explore your experiences and get help you deserve call our office at 323-334-0064. Free confidential...

I was abandoned.

I was abandoned. What a strong emotional statement, “I was abandoned.” Being abandoned takes many different shapes based on perception. It is one of our top fears; to be left behind, overlooked, invisible or not included. Virginia Satir, noted psychotherapist, explained how we share the same universal needs that include the need to be accepted, loved, understood, heard, belong, connected, and free etc. When these needs are unmet or challenged, it becomes a problem. I can remember many times that I felt some sense of abandonment. These memories vary from little incidences of not feeling included to larger experiences of being forgotten about and left behind.  One of my top needs is to be included and connected. It’s important that I recognize and accept this belief because it impacts how I am in the world. Consider, if this is a top need of mine, how does that impact my ability to be a confident businesswoman, mother, partner, etc? How do you think it plays out in the real world when I believe this need is not being met by others? In this video I explain I a time when I was abandoned. These lingering effects and emotional memories of those “abandoned” experiences is considered trauma, in that it has an impact on how I am today. Here at Fuller Life Concepts our trained trauma-informed therapists build resiliency in the clients we serve to help them identify how their underlying needs are impacting their lives in ways they want to change. To connect with a therapist to explore your experiences and get help you deserve call our office at 323-334-0064....

I’m Sorry is diminishing your power.

I’m Sorry is Diminishing your power. Are you intentional in how you speak about what you mean? It’s so easy to say I’m sorry and How are you, when you don’t really mean it. I think these polite phrases diminish your personal power and lose the intentional meaning. What do you think?   If you want support with being intentional, join my ALL IN Accountability Mastermind today! Click here...

Maximize your meetings being Intentional

Intentional; purposeful, deliberate, planned. When you schedule a meeting create an agenda and have an intentional plan. We visited Washington, DC with our sorority for the annual Delta Days at the Nations Capitol this month,  We had a meeting with Jim Costa, US Representative and a Democrat in congress.  Our plan was to discuss the needs in our local communities.  We met with his aide and had a successful meeting around domestic violence and victim compensation. When you schedule meetings be clear on your plan.  Ask yourself what is your intention?   If you want support with being intentional, join my ALL IN Accountability Mastermind today! Click here...

I can’t do it, it’s not possible!

When I was a little girl, my father asked me to climb up onto the roof of our home and get something. I was excited to be helping my Dad. Without thinking it through, I climbed up the ladder and tossed down the toy or whatever what up there. I was smiling and proud of myself for being there to help him. Then, I turned around to climb back down…fear set in quickly. I started to tremble. My eyes widened and I said, “I can’t do it. The ladder is too far away from the edge of the roof. I will fall.” I was in panic mode.  He assured me I could make it. My next thought was, “It’s not possible!”. My dad continued to encourage me to climb down off the roof, he believed that I would be able to reach the top step of the ladder (that I couldn’t even see). He said what I needed to hear in order to calm me down. By now I am snotting and sniveling saying over and over again, “I shouldn’t come up here”. Tears streaming down my face as I shake my head back and forth to each of his verbal commands. I already knew I was afraid of heights, but wanted to help out my Dad.  It was ballsy of me go up on the roof, knowing that I was scared. After about 30 minutes, I did climb down off the roof without him needing to come up and get me. Why was I able to climb down alone even though I was so wrought with fear? He...

What lie are you believing today?

The self-fulfilling prophecy concept is very strong. How are you bring to you those things that someone else filled your head with. When I was about 7 years old, a teacher told me that I wasn’ t a good actress in the play. (this is my 7 year old perception), thus I had to fight through the belief I wasn’t good enough for years. It kept me from asking for what I deserved, and kept my listening to other peoples’ beliefs over my own. Who do you need to surround yourself with in order to get to where you deserve to be in life? Who is in your ear about who you are and telling you their own perceptions and you are believing them? What lies are you believing about the world around you? This month the focus is Insight!! For more support join my ALL IN accountability mastermind. http://stayaccountabletoyourgoals.com/all-in-accountabilit…/ http://stayaccountabletoyourgoals.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/02/How-are-you-holding-back-your-need.mp4  ...