Help For Those Victims of the Nevada Massacre

On October 1st the unthinkable happened, a massacre at a concert, leaving almost 60 people dead.   In addition the victims who lost their lives in this atrocity, there were hundreds of other victims who lives are significantly impacted by those events. Those surviving victims are eligible for compensation due to their traumatic experience. Click the video below to get more information.   For more information you can contact me directly at 323-334-0064 or the California Victims of Crime Board at...

Who Knew I was Soooo Defensive?!

When my sister asked me a simple question, (Do you know where the toothpaste is?) my response was full of energy and intensity. It was not proportional to the question or the situation. I completely over reacted. I was stuck in my own shame of being perceived that she was criticizing my organization.  All that internal dialogue around what she meant and how could she question me and what on earth can’t she see it right in front of her, happened in a split second. My response was was aggressive and hostile. Watch the video for more examples of my over reactions and why I have them. If you are ready to stop being the wound and reacting to the past, join me in the Fall Review. Six week program to help you with your personal strategy of unleashing yourself from the reactions that are holding you hostage and keeping you from your goals. Click the buy now button below to get one of the few spots...

How to get 90% Probability that you will complete your goal

I was reading online and ran across this research study on the probability of reaching goals. I was immediately interested in reading more because I often get the question of how to stay focused enough to finally be successful. In the video I share how to get upwards of 90% probability that you will complete your goals. If you commit to someone else that you will follow through, you just upped your probability to 65%. One way to do this is to join me at the Refresh: Living your Best Life retreat experience. If you desire to be around other positive women who are blazing toward their goals, join us at the Refresh: Living your Best Life retreat experience. Click the image below to learn...

My negotiation skills need work

Do you ever feel taken advantage of when it comes to negotiating? I know that I have felt awful. Today, I share a recent example of my bad negotiation skills. I had to pause and check in with myself. I was debating and complaining. Those are definite signs that I was not in my power. I was feeling desperation and fear. I really needed this person to take on a position because I was drowning in work. I was almost willing to accept any offer made. Luckily, I paused first and shifted back into my power. To make a shift into your power you need to set firm boundaries on where you stand and where to draw the line. There are four behaviors that clearly define blurred lines… *Arguing *Debating * Complaining *Begging These are not negotiation skill builders and actually highlight a fear based position when it comes to negotiating. If you are engulfed in any of these behaviors end your discussion immediately and walk away until you are able to come from a place of power. In the video I share how it went wrong when trying to hire a contract therapist and it went waaayy off track! Click image to view video. My FALL ALL IN Retreat is this October. We can work together on helping you increase power in negotiations Click...

Out of the Closet, Finally!

The challenge of trying to fit in or blend in has come to an end.  It is important for me to be okay with the fact that I don’t blend in…I actually stand out in almost all of my environments.  This realization is not new, it is just time that I talk about it openly because it impacts my ability to reach goals.  What are you hiding that keeps you stuck?  Watch the video to hear what I am no longer keeping in the closet and why I felt like I needed to...

Time for self can equal happiness

I was working with a client a few weeks ago and asked her what she wants in her life.  I was reminded that we often base our happiness on how other’s are feeling.  She struggled with coming up with answers that were all about her.  She found that she felt selfish and undeserving to be happy  just for herself.  I like the term Self Full to describe what we are doing for ourselves when we take time out.  I encouraged her to step outside of her comfort zone and take 5 minutes to ask a bunch of why questions.  I encourage you to do the same, this week and beyond.  Let me know what you learn....